if you identify as cis but haven’t actually taken time to sit down and examine and analyze your gender identity, it’s probably time to do that otherwise you’ve just given in to society forcing a significant part of your identity upon you.
if someones comfortable with their gender identity to the point that its not even on their mind then theres no need for them to analyse it
as someone who basically identifies as cis i think it’s very much important to examine your gender identity. it might lead to small things: e.g. after i did that i stopped shaving because i realized that i wasn’t doing it for myself. further, i’ve stopped seeing my own face as a gendered thing and this makes it easier for me to be respectful of the identities of others, and easier to be happy with the meatsack i live in. i think that it’s very important for cis people to consider what aspects of gendered existence we hold sacred. peeing in a segregated space? if so, why? i mean this is exactly the kind of question trans communities have been trying to get us to deal with forever and i think that answering it on a cultural level will come with exactly the type of introspection that OP is asking for.
some of the best advice i’ve got in college so far is “make strange what is comfortable” and hey, after you take it apart, you can put it right back together again if that’s what makes you happy but it’s still important to evaluate why you perform your gender the way you do and what rituals are essential to that? why are they essential? are they worth perpetuating? the answer might not always be yes EVEN for people comfortable with the label of their gender assigned at birth
Tag: gender
Gender Magic
I noticed that there were only small pockets of posts on helping ease dysphoria or helping you feel more at home with your gender/identity so I decided to compile what I could here!
TERFS are not welcome to interact with this post. But, I always seize the opportunity to block gross people!
Spells (dysphoria):
- Dysphoria healing spell
- Dispelling dysphoria
- Dysphoria spell bottle
- Gender protection jar
- Voice dysphoria glamour
- To stop chest dysphoria
- Menstruation dysphoria tea
Spells (gender identity):
- Gender affirmation spell
- Gender orientation validation spell
- An enchantment to be seen as the gender you identify with
- Gender clarity switch
- Gender euphoria incantation
- Confidence mirror glamour
- Glamour to prevent misgendering
Sigils:
- Dysphoria is banished
- I am free of dysphoria
- I do not have gender dysphoria
- Dysphoria does not effect me
- Relieving dysphoria for trans people
- My gender is accepted
- My voice gets deeper
For feeling more masculine:
- Glamoured masculinity potion
- The emperor’s reform spell (to strengthen masculine energies)
- Bath spell for transmasculinity
- Dapper magic
- I am full of masculinity sigil
- I look more masculine sigil
For feeling more feminine:
- Potion for trans-feminine people
- Glamoured femininity potion
- The empress reclaim spell (to strengthen feminine energies)
- I appear feminine sigil
- My appearance is feminine sigil
- Increased femininity sigil
For feeling more non-binary (any “non-traditional” gender):
- Androgynous glamour
- My body is an agender body sigil
- Non-binary confidence sigil
- Ambiguity / Androgyny / Genderlessness sigils
General:
Other resources:
- @sylvaetria‘s masterpost
- @witchy-woman‘s LGBT masterposts [masculine] [feminine]
- @magicusersresource‘s masterpost (spells for trans and nb folks)
- @neurodwitches‘ masterpost (dysphoria and witchcraft)
Another illustration I did for the gender workbook. Five cultures which have understood and respected non-binary gender identities for centuries.
It bothers me when people act like the idea of identifying as transgender or third gender is a new concept, or a trend which started recently in the West. Let’s be honest: the west is thousands of years late to the party, and we’re just now catching up. Hijras are mentioned in the Kama Sutra, which was written in 400 BC. Non-binary understandings of gender have existed since ancient times. Google it, y’all.
Disclaimer: you can and should learn about these cultures to broaden your understanding of gender, but you cannot claim any of these identities unless you are actually a part of that culture. For example, it would be cultural appropriation for a non-Native person to read an article about Two Spirits and decide that they identify as a Two Spirit now. This should really go without saying, but it’s happened before.
Also, the Muxe from Oaxaca, Mexico would make a nice addition to this list.
I know this will be hard, because we’ve learned from such a young age that certain names are ‘boy names’ or ‘girl names’, but we should work towards stopping to associate names with gender.
When someone tells you: “Hey, I’m Steven, I’m a girl and use she/her pronouns!” then she is a girl and you’re gonna use she/her pronouns for her. “I like Steven, she is a pretty girl and my best friend.”
When someone tells you: “Hey, I’m Cathy, I’m a boy and use he/him pronouns!” then he is a boy and you’re gonna use he/him pronouns for him. “This is Cathy, he is my boyfriend.”
When someone tells you: “Hey, I’m Peter, I’m agender and use ey/em pronouns!” then ey is agender and you’re going to use ey/em pronouns for em. “Peter is my favourite person because ey is so nice.”
Some trans people want to keep their birth name. That doesn’t mean they are less trans, or that they are less worthy of respect.
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